Shivers ran down my spine as I read about this incredible woman’s life. She fought with words. She fought with stories. She stood her ground. She shook a nation.
Abraham Lincoln when he met her said, “So, this is the little woman who started the great war.”
I am talking about Harriet Beecher Stowe. The author of Uncle Tom’s Cabin. A book, I am ashamed to say I have never read (although as soon as I can get to the library I will remedy that right quick).
She is one of my hero’s. She stood for truth. Not in a loud, judgemental, shaking a finger type of way.
She used stories, she was clear headed and she influenced thousands, from a lowly farmer, to the Prime Minister of England.
In this day and age of fake news, click-bait, photoshop and emotional Facebook rants, it’s tempting to either stay quiet or vent emotionally (and irrationally) on topics that matter. I have erred on both sides (although I’m more prone to the emotional ranting, if we’re being honest).
I’ve been told to stay out of it and stay quiet. I’ve been told the best thing to do is to simply love your family and be kind to others.
I agree, that’s a noble thing to do and I love doing it every day. I love having littles and getting to teach them these important lessons and pray that when I release these humans into the world they will stand up and make it a better place.
But, I think there is something to be said for speaking up & speaking out. Even if you make mistakes. Even if you get backlash. Even if you have to go back and apologize when you’ve gone too far. It may be messy, but I am convinced, it is worth the mess.
Learning how to communicate clearly, with emotion but without being mean, with humility but also with strength, takes time, and practice. It takes WORK, and it might seem to some an exercise not worth undertaking, but if you KNOW truth, if you KNOW God’s word, if your heart BREAKS at injustice and a lack of empathy and a complete departure from logic – I encourage you – speak up.
Now, please hear me, this is not an encouragement for more of the ugly, name-calling, lack of compassion, internet trolling – I’m talking about intelligent, balanced, composed, focused and love-filled arguments and conversations.
Words are our most powerful weapons. Words communicate ideas, and ideas get lodged into people’s minds. Eventually those ideas become actions and the actions of many can change the world.
We need more women like Harriet Beecher Stowe. Brave and strong, articulate and compassionate. Unmoving in conviction and powerful in influence.
If there is light in you – don’t hide it, pray about how you can let it shine.
Are you wondering if being a Beachbody Coach is something that might be right for you? Are you concerned about alienating your friends and family or turning into one of those spammy multi-level marketers?
I totally get it. One of the biggest reasons I was nervous to sign up as a coach was because I didn’t want to be one of THOSE coaches. You know, the ones that make you roll your eyes and feel super uncomfortable.
Well, guess what? Even though I made PLENTY of mistakes along the way, and even did a few of these “annoying” things, I always made sure the LEARN from my mistakes. Here are five top things that are SUPER annoying, and if you avoid doing them, you will be on your way to building an amazing and fulfilling Beachbody coaching career.
#1) All of a sudden, ONLY post about Beachbody stuff
This is something that happens most often in brand new coaches. I get it, you are SUPER excited about how your life is TRANSFORMING. Life transformation is a BIG DEAL and once you experience it, you genuinely want to tell EVERYONE about it. I remember thinking – WHY AM I JUST FINDING OUT ABOUT THESE TOOLS NOW?! Why did no one tell me about this sooner!?!? I want to scream from the mountain tops!
Here’s the thing, even though you are a little bit obsessed with Beachbody (I am too) it’s not ALL of who you are…is it? NO! None of us are ever only one thing, and to neglect the rest of who you are is just a tiny bit, annoying. Or at the very least, simply overwhelming for most friends and family who have been following you. Just imagine if someone came walking over to you at the park and they were decked out, from head to toe, in some random company name. It would just be creepy, overwhelming and a little off-putting. You would miss so much of who they are as a person.
I believe this also happens when coaches don’t have confidence in who they are. YOU are amazing – YOU have value to add – YOU are amazing and beautiful and brilliant, and when coaches HIDE behind products it may just be a lack of confidence. (But don’t worry, that can be grown, just like a muscle, give it some attention, do some confidence exercises and in no time, you’ll be sharing all about your life with boldness and heart).
Keep your social media diverse.Try as best you can to keep it an accurate representation of who YOU are in real life. I recommend 80% YOU and value adding content and only 20% Beachbody.
#2) Treat everyone as a prospect instead of a person
I am all about hitting goals, getting creative, running hard to achieve something big for your family. However, when it got to be the end of the month and maybe I was feeling desperate to hit my monthly goals, I would feel so tempted to treat others as prospects instead of people. Every single time I did that I would trade a financial, here and now, or accolade for a true and genuine friendship. I realized after a few months of doing that, it wasn’t how I wanted to run my business, it wasn’t the legacy I wanted. “Hitting goals at ALL costs” was not in alignment with my values.
Social media has been an amazing blessing to me and brought me so many incredible friendships. I do use social media to find women who I can relate to and who can relate to me. My hope and prayer is that my life, my words and the tools from Beachbody can be a blessing in their life, but I see them as PEOPLE, not prospects.
At the beginning of my career I would make a prospects list and think of ways to “convince” others that they should get these programs. Now, I make a “my favorite people” list and think of ways to SERVE them. This subtle shift in thinking has changed EVERYTHING for me. It makes it a JOY to interact on social media, it has allowed me to keep friendships in tact, whether someone joins my team, my challenge group, my email list or simply just likes keeping up with me and my crazy kids. My goal is always the same: serve, give, love and support.
#3) Forget what it was like when you were first struggling with your health
It’s easy to forget the struggle. It’s easy to have success and conquer your demons and move forward and feel so encouraged and triumphant and post things like: “ The only thing standing in your way is that BS story you keep telling yourself!” -or- “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.” Sometimes that tough love is helpful, and certainly when you are all-in with your health and feeling great and pushing hard, those quotes just FIRE you up!! But, I know for me, I have forgotten at times to be sensitive.
As obesity rates climb, more and more of the population is struggling with weight and that comes with so much mental and emotional baggage. There have been studies that show that shaming people, making them feel like a failure, or telling them to just “Try Harder!!” isn’t helpful. Transformation happens best from a place of self-love and desire to HONOR one’s body rather than from a place of self-loathing and hatred.
If you are not attracting people, take a look at your message, does it give HOPE, or is it a little hard to swallow and insensitive?
#4) Share WHAT you do without sharing WHY you do it
This is a BIG mistake I see lots of coaches making. It’s easy to take a post workout selfie or videos. It’s easy to show your Shakeology cup or a salad you just made, but all that does is say: “Look at WHAT I did.” and to that, most people will say: “good for you” and move on.
Are we sharing to boast or to help? To show off or to offer a life-line? The only way that I can make a difference in someone’s life is if I can reach them on an emotional level. I can share a photo of my post workout but also share WHY this workout was important to me. Share what thoughts I had before starting my workout. Thoughts of discouragement, thoughts of defeat, thoughts of laziness, and how I PUSHED through, and each rep, each jumping jack, each minute that passed I was proving to myself that I am stronger than the defeat of the past.
Talking about how I am beating generational diseases like cancer, high cholesterol, lupus and addiction – this is my WHY. Until you start getting comfortable with sharing that – your daily “check-ins” that provide no value, no tips, no encouragement, nothing more than just to say: “Look what I did.” will do nothing but potentialy annoy your audience.
Get vulnerable, share your STORY. Don’t hide behind a Shakeology shaker cup. YOU are the difference maker! Be brave and watch your audience go from rolling their eyes to wiping their eyes.
#5) Be a taker, not a giver
So often I hear how annoying Beachbody coaches spam people, start conversations with old friends and out of the blue “pitch” their fitness groups. I would avoid this tactic. If you want to build a successful business and grow from a place of integrity, you have to be a giver, not a taker. All this means, is that before you EVER ask anyone for anything, you GIVE to them.
I have several resources that I like to give to women who reach out to me for help. I have meal plans, workout calendars, checklists, e-books and I am currently working on a video series. This goes back to the idea of “how can I serve” instead of “how can I sell.”
The more you can give to someone, the more you build trust, and the more you earn the right to help.
Being a health and fitness coach is not like selling makeup or jewelry. It is an EMOTIONAL journey that we are embarking on with those clients who trust us to lead them through. Because of that, building trust is so IMPORTANT on this journey. Take the time, build the relationship, be a giver, listen more than you talk and understand this is a PERSON, not a prospect.
I hope these tips are helpful to you. Just like any other profession, whether it’s a chef, a roofer, a musician or a hair stylist – there are people who are great, genuine, skillful Beachbody coaches and not so great, lazy or selfish Beachbody coaches. It’s not the profession itself, it’s the people and the approach.
If you are looking into coaching I would love to chat with you – I firmly believe that this is a job that can bring incredible financial freedom, accountability for your own health journey, a community of positive go-getters and flexibility. I LOVE what I do and I have the awesome privilege to lead my team called The Shine Tribe. We are full of coaches committed to running our businesses with a high level of integrity, value on serving and excellence in everything we do.
Feel free to reach out to me to apply to explore if this opportunity and my team would be right for you. And if you DO run into an annoying Beachbody coach, just love on them….and maybe share this blog post 😉
Growing up I was a TOTAL bookworm. Like, Vanessa, put that book down your friends are here and you need to play with them – bookworm.
And I’m not even sure when it all started to change, probably somewhere around college, when my reading began to be “required” and took hours and the fun started to get squeezed out.
When I first stared coaching, one of the requirements was reading 10 minutes of a personal development book. I had almost forgotten what it was like to read regularly – I had pretty much stopped all together since having kids. I was pleasantly surprised to find it completely revolutionized my life!
I’ve been asked many times what books I’m reading and what books I recommend. I posted a book list a little while ago (you can find it here) but since then I have enjoyed a few other titles, so here’s what’s on my reading list these days.
Struggle with your imperfections. Are always trying to please everyone in everything. If you live in fear and want to be free to love more. This book brought me to tears on more than one occasion – I love it dearly like an old friend (and Brené Brown is hilarious).
Struggle with feeling like you are too much and not enough all at the same time. Need a breath of fresh air into your faith and relationship with God. You are looking for greater FREEDOM in your life. Want to be challenged to run harder after God.
Maybe it’s adding a fourth child. Maybe it’s that this is now my SEVENTH Christmas as a mother (WHAT?!). Maybe my awesome, minimalist sister is rubbing off on me, but this year I had NO desire to ask for or gift THINGS.
But I don’t want to be a Grinch either!! I LOVE giving gifts and Christmas and trees and twinkling lights as much as anyone. So I’ve been brainstorming how to give experiences instead of things. It’s actually true that things lose their value and excitement over time, but experiences become memories and we cherish them MORE as time passes.
So, here is my list of 15 Experiences you might consider giving to your loved ones. I can tell you for a FACT that I would prefer ANY of these gifts to a scented candle by a LOT.
1) Photo Shoot When I was pregnant I had my first maternity photo shoot (took me four times to finally get one!) and she came and did a ‘lifestyle’ shoot where we just hung out in our home and the kids were jumping on the bed and we were cuddling and reading a book and I LOVED it so much. For someone to catch the mundane, every day moments, looks and giggles. I think giving someone the gift of a photoshoot would be incredible.
2) Prayer Journal The experience of communing with God, pouring out your heart to Him and recording it so you can go back and remember His goodness is absolutely priceless. This Write the Word Journal is a great one, full of scripture and then PLENTY of space to interact with and experience it each day.
3) Fitness Program Of course I’m going to mention a fitness program. Giving someone the gift of health is an amazing experience. But it doesn’t just have to be a workout program or a subscription to Beachbody on Demand. It could be paying for their entrance in a race, obstacle course or tennis or golf lessons. Being active brings JOY and might keep your loved one around longer too – so it’s a win/win.
4) Tickets to a LIVE event A sporting game, concert or play is such a sensory delight in a day and age where we experience so much behind a screen. To see the sweat on a performer’s face, and laugh along with hundreds of others is an experience that won’t soon be forgotten.
5) House Cleaning I would seriously CRY if I was gifted this! If you are not a mom with four small children then you probably don’t get this, but if you KNOW a mom with four small kids then GET IT for her! Trust me, the experience of getting to go out for a few hours and come back to a spotless home will be nothing short of heavenly.
6) Annual pass to a museum or zoo So often when we go to specialty places like this we stay ALL day because we want to “get the most” out of our entrance fee, but when you have an annual pass you can slow down, smell the roses, enjoy the beauty of the local botanical garden, or an hour or two at a local pool or water park. And this is a gift that will keep on giving for a full YEAR!
7) Baby-sitting This is again, probably one of those gifts only a mom with four small children would REALLY appreciate, but so many parents just have a TERRIBLE time finding babysitting or use theirs up for work or other events and never get date nights. And even if you have ‘offered’ in the past, we hate to ask – so set a date, and give the gift of sanity – I mean, childcare, to your friends with kids.
8) Coffee Yes, this could mean giving a gift card to a coffee shop, but MORE than that, give the experience of a coffee date with YOU! So often we say, “We should really get some coffee!” but in our busy lives, we seldom actually PLAN to do it! At least that’s how it is for me. I would just DIE to get this gift – not only because I love me some coffee, but because coffee with a good friend is like therapy!
9) Spa Time Rest. We all need more of it – amiright? Why not give someone the gift of relaxation. A massage, a facial, a mani or pedi, that relaxing spa music, those robes. It’s an experience we all NEED and seldom get!
10) E-course or Online academy Now days you can learn pretty much ANY skill from the comfort of your own home. There are so many little online academy’s I would LOVE to take – ones on de-cluttering, goal setting, entrepreneurship, photography. It’s an experience that will enrich someone for the rest of their LIFE as they get to gain a new skill.
11) Adventure sports Sky-diving has never been my thing, but my sister and her husband did it and it’s apparently a once in a lifetime experience. Or maybe para sailing or water skiing. There are tons of adventure sports that we all “wish” we could do, and even if it doesn’t turn out as picturesque as you envision – it’ll be a great story!
12) Personal Stylist We all have to get dressed, every single day. But most people don’t LOVE the way they look, they don’t know what their style is or where to shop or how to buy clothes that fit them. Why not give the gift of a personal stylist. You can look one up locally, or find someone online. This experience will not only be fun because….shopping! but will be a gift they use every single day.
13) Cooking Class Eating is another one of those pesky things we have to do every single day. (I actually love cooking, so not so pesky to me, except when I’m super busy, and it’s getting late, and the kids are melting down and we have nothing that is quick to prepare) There are some GREAT cooking classes for all levels, even some you can have in the comfort of your own home (if you live in the South Florida area you should check out At Your Kitchen). Any gift that ends with a delicious meal is a winner in my book!
14) Conference There are so many amazing conferences for men, women, writers, artists, photographers, entrepreneurs – you name it, there’s a great gathering for it. These times of refreshing and learning are always something we “wish” we could do, but again, unless someone gifts it to us, or puts it on the calendar and says – GO! we seldom follow through. What an amazing experience to give someone than to provide a space to get away and be enriched in their life.
15) Organizer Having an organized home and life is one of those invaluable things that seems ever illusive. Hiring someone to come over and organize a part of your loved one’s life could be an absolute GOD-SEND! Sometimes we are so bogged down in the clutter and details, it takes a professional outsider to help sort things in a way that makes sense and keeps our life moving forward and working well.
I can’t wait to find amazing experiences to gift to my family and friends and fill our lives not just our closets and shelves.
My whole life I told myself: “I’m not good at math.”
English was fun because even though learning grammar was a drag, I got to write stories and there was some sort of interesting thread of language that I enjoyed.
History was fascinating because again, it was stories. People be crazy in ancient times!! I would have so much fun digging into the history of fashion and foods from other lands – loved it.
Science was cool because we did experiments. I could touch it and see it – smoke coming from a beaker, the wings of a butterfly. Learning how the human body worked was mind-blowing!
But math. Math was cold. Boring. White paper + black numbers.
Nothing about math held my interest. Even when math tried to be fun and have a story with it’s word problems, I couldn’t connect to it. I even tried to give each number a personality. Number 1 was the mother and number 2 was the father. Number 3 was the baby and number 4 was the big sister. Still, my mind just couldn’t focus and I started to tell myself: “I’m not good at math.”
Fast forward to the very end of my associates degree – I had only one math class that was required for this degree and I pushed it off ALL the way to the end. Only by this time, I was also working full time. Morning classes were out and night classes were limited – so I signed up for a class in a campus near to my job but far from my home.
My job ended at 5pm and the class didn’t start until 7pm. I went straight there from work and because I had nothing to do from 5pm to 7pm I made it my habit to go up to the math lab and just work on problems until class started.
My professor was this tiny blond Russian lady who liked to wear the brightest red lipstick. I can still hear her thick accent as she tried to explain slope and variables. I felt pretty lost most of the class, and not until the very end would things finally start to click and make sense. I would often need the tutors in the math lab to help me through the problems, but every week on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 5:15pm – 6:45pm I would work on those problems.
Something incredible happened after my first exam.
The paper got handed back to me and there at the top in red ink, a PERFECT score.
What!? Me?! I’m terrible at math!
Well, it turns out, I’m not. I’m just terrible at hard work. When things aren’t interesting, when I can’t connect to a story or a fun hands on experiment, I am not good at forcing my mind to just do the hard work.
Not until I was forced to just do the work in a freezing cold math lab and just practice and practice and focus and WORK did I find that I was totally capable of understanding and succeeding in math class.
I ended the class with a near perfect score in all of my exams and got to skip the final because my scores were so high.
Me, the girl who barely passed every high school math class – being the top student in a college level algebra class???
I learned a lot more than equations and formulas in that class. I learned that I make excuses for myself when the reality is I just straight up don’t want to do something. I learned that I am capable of more than I realize. I learned that hard work – even though I never want to do it – is actually rewarding and exhilarating.
I plan to blog fully about my experience last weekend at Summit, but if there’s one thing I learned there, it’s that success is available to everyone, but it’s built by doing one boring small action after another and working HARD and not giving up and believing that it’s not the talented who succeed but those who put in the work even when they’ve thought all their life that they just aren’t good at math.
I feel like I’ve been given permission to be great at whatever I want! As long as I’m willing to put in the work and be consistent with it – I’m not going to listen to that old story anymore.
It’s easy to move on. It’s easy to forget. When the success starts coming and the weight’s fallen off and the energy is back and the mood is lifted.
I had a conversation the other night that made me remember.
I remember when I wasn’t winning. When every event I had to find an outfit for was frustrating (usually ending in tears). When every night I was too tired and depressed to do anything to better my life so I sat in front of a screen. When I just wanted life to be easy but it felt so hard. When I didn’t like myself – not because of how I looked but because I was choosing daily to be someone I didn’t want to be. I was choosing the easy road to not workout, to not eat healthy, to not do fun creative things with my kids and just turn on the TV for them or numb my pain with sugar and carbs. I was BURNT OUT. I didn’t feel like I could do more, but I hated doing the bare minimum. I was in a fog. My goal was to survive the day without killing anyone (I’m not joking). I knew I was meant for greater things but I was too tired and frustrated with myself to try.
I’m not saying life isn’t still a struggle. I’m not saying that before I wasn’t winning now all I do is win. Yesterday was a pregnancy hormonal roller coaster (my poor husband)! But today is a new day. I KNOW what I’m capable of because I’ve fought my way out of those dark days, and when I see the darkness creeping in again, instead of throwing up my hands and resigning myself to surrender to it, I know I can fight it. I know I can wake up to a NEW day. I can make healthy choices, I can take the kids to the library, park, IKEA, Target, cut up some construction paper and get out some glue, I know I can hit play on a 30 minute workout and no matter how many interruptions I know it’s doing my body some good, I know that the fog that hovers over my mind and convinces me that it’s got to be complicated and it’s going to be too hard, is just a lie, and so I dive in and do my best anyway.
I am OVER living for perfection – working out 6 days a week – only eating organic everything – making my own yogurt and bone broth – I am embracing messy attempts at bettering myself, because perfection will never be me, but resignation to lazy- self-destructive patterns wasn’t getting me anywhere either. It’s not that I win all the time, it’s that I TRY all the time, and there’s some sort of magic in trying.
If you aren’t winning, if you don’t even have the strength or confidence to try, if you are in that fog, if you see my posts and roll your eyes because you just can’t…I KNOW that place. I haven’t forgotten. We all hit our rock bottom and we all realize our own strength at different times and in different ways, but let me assure you – there is a spark of the divine in you and that spark just needs to be fanned into a flame. It’s one gust of air away from burning brightly again.
I wish we could sit over coffee and I could blow on that spark, and show you how I see you, how those around you see you, how bright you shine – because I know with the sunglasses of self-doubt and the ear plugs of past failures on it’s hard to see things clearly.
So, this is my love letter to you – when you aren’t winning. Things aren’t as dark as they seem.
Before starting my at home workout life almost two years ago (has it really been that long?!) I was a hit or miss gym go-er, spending most of my time on the elliptical or treadmill and never really seeing any changes or results in my body.
After talking with my husband about how hard his Hammer and Chisel workout was last night it hit me why I NEVER saw results or pushed myself prior to starting my Beachbody challenge and getting a coach: Failure is required for change and I hate failure.
These workout programs from Beachbody are HARD – some of them are REALLY hard. You WILL fail the first time you try them. You won’t last the full minute, you won’t finish with the weights you started with, you may need to hit pause at some point – you will FAIL. For me, before I had the support of a coach and was working on my own personal development, that was a big problem. It was why I gave up on every “diet” I ever tried. I couldn’t deal with failure. If I’m going to fail – what’s the point? I’m not even going to try!
It messed with my head and kept me stuck on the treadmill doing something I knew I COULD do and keeping me from progress and growth.
You CAN’T grow without failure. So what’s really keeping you and me and all of us from the results we want is that we don’t have the courage to fail. Once you get that courage, once you decide that you are going to start a program that is too hard for you or a business that you’ve never tried before and swallow your pride and decide that no matter how many mistakes are made, you are going to fail your way through it – you will FIND the success you have been looking for.
It’s true with exercise and health and fitness and nutrition – it’s true with business and relationships and anything new that you want to accomplish. Once you find that courage – once you realize that failure is PART of success and not something to take personally or let knock you off your game – the WORLD will be unlocked to you.
But this courage to fail isn’t something you have to drum up only once – it’s something you have to face over and over again. Because the things you were once afraid to try become your comfort zone and you have the choice – stay there or get up the courage AGAIN to push to the next level where you will once again fail.
The good news is, every time it gets just a little bit easier. Every time you are faced with that next step, finding the courage to fail your way toward success gets a little easier because you remember what it was like last time. You remember how much you wanted to give up, how deeply you doubted yourself and how you kept going and found success. You hold on to that faith and you jump in to the mess and the confusion and the mistakes and you GROW.
If you make resolutions every year, I challenge you to resolve to fail more this year. In doing so, I think you will find that you will GROW more this year than ever before!
(For more on this subject I HIGHLY recommend the book Failing Forward by John C. Maxwell)
Last year I started the practice of choosing a word for the year. In 2015 I settled on “Calculated” I wanted to make every moment, every decision and every action point toward my goals and push me toward the person I wanted to become.
This year, with the anticipation of a new baby and the explosive growth that my team and my business are poised to take I was excited about the growth to be had, but I felt like instead of the forceful “make it happen” attitude I had in 2015 I was being drawn toward the simpler “let it happen”.
I feel like in 2015 I have hustled and worked and pushed and grown like crazy! It’s been amazing to see what I am capable of – to see the lives changed and my team built and grown from virtually nothing to a thriving team of over 300 coaches.
In 2016 however I am feeling a shift. Yes, still working hard. Yes, still focused on goals. Yes, still bold in my actions, but a focus on nurturing the ROOTS of my business “tree” instead of exerting energy on the leaves, flowers and fruit of my business.
My word for 2016 is “ROOTED” and it’s all about digging deep. Not just springing up quickly, with no foundation for sustainable growth, but truly taking time the build a foundation with integrity. To invest in the fundamentals and to strengthen my team and myself until we are an unshakable force. The height of the tree will only increase in proportion to the depth of the roots.
I see this applying to all areas of my life, not just my business, but with my children, with my marriage and with my own personal and spiritual health. I want to invest in the nourishing of our roots and let the growth happen as an organic outcome.
Less striving, more thriving.
I can’t wait to see what 2016 has in store, if it’s anything like 2015 it will be absolutely incredible with a few surprises thrown in – which is totally fine with me.
Do you take time each year to reflect, set goals or come up with a word? I’d love to hear from you and your plans and hopes for the new year – such an exciting time of new beginnings!
You know what’s funny about life? It’s never as easy as we expect it to be. There’ ALWAYS a challenge in front of me, always something “getting in the way” of my health and fitness and personal goals. Somehow I’m always surprised! As if I’m expecting life to just be flowers and roses – little to no resistance. I’m almost offended that life would DARE to be…difficult!
Maybe I’m the only one, but I’m SO often tempted to get upset at the curve balls and challenges in my life. I like to do something called: “feeling sorry for myself”. I know you probably NEVER do this, but I do. Just recently I’ve had THE most debilitating nausea I’ve EVER experienced in my life. I cannot get out of bed, I cannot function, I cannot think straight – it’s been unexpected (none of my previous pregnancies were this extreme) and I have let myself get upset about it. I’ve been feeling sorry for myself and letting my workouts and nutrition slide.
It wasn’t until the other night that I realized what was happening. I listened to a webinar with Autumn Calabrese and she looked straight in the camera and said, “You know, difficult things happen in all of our lives, and then we have the choice to either give in to the excuses or decided to be stronger and keep going.” It was like she was speaking STRAIGHT to me.
I may not be able to control the nausea that hits my body. I may not be able to control the demands that my three wonderful children make on me, but I CAN control MY attitude. I can control MY actions. I don’t have to feel sorry for myself. I don’t have to throw in the towel on my fitness and nutrition. I don’t have to wallow about.
You may have a MILLION reasons why it’s “too hard” to live healthy. You may have a million reasons why your challenges are keeping you from making good choices. I hate to be the one to call you out, but I PROMISE you, once you let go of those excuses and decide to do it anyway you will feel SO MUCH better!
Positivity, determination and taking responsibility for YOUR life are decisions we ALL can make – I am choosing today (and every day) to stop feeling sorry for myself and start feeling GREAT! May not look perfect every day, but I’ll take imperfection over inaction ANY day of the week.
It’s obvious to most that I LOVE what I do as a Beachbody Coach. I get a lot of interest in joining my team and it makes me so thrilled to get women started in their own business. Not only because of the life-giving nature of it (So funny how I was concerned it would be a burden to add to my plate, when in reality it has given me the energy and skill to do everything else in my life better and faster! I feel LESS stressed having added coaching to my life than I did before!) but also because when I started coaching, I NEEDED it to work.
I had three small children ages 3, 2 and 4 months, and my husband was in grad school, things were TIGHT and doing our finances every week was something I absolutely DREADED!! We kept saying, “If only we had an extra $10,000 a year we would be in such a better place!” But that might as well have been 10 Million dollars! With no college degree and no family who could watch the kids full time there was no way I could get a job that would cover childcare AND still make us an additional $10,000! I was considering working at night but the thought of being a mom of three all day long and THEN work at night and never see my husband, when I was already struggling with energy and already feeling overwhelmed and somewhat depressed, it was not an ideal situation. My husband was considering taking on a second job, but with an hour and a half commute, we were already missing out on so much time with him and my heart hurt to think of even LESS time together. Money is valuable, but time is even more because you can’t earn more of it.
I had seen my coach doing her Beachbody thing, but really wasn’t interested in doing it until she shared her income one month. She shared how she had made $1400 that month. It was a number that hit me right in the chest because it was the exact number of our mortgage. The wheels in my head started turning. I started to wonder if I could do this. Work from home, work on Facebook, work from my phone – encouraging women (which I love doing anyway) and maybe, just maybe she could show me how to earn enough to pay for our mortgage each month.
I took the plunge and haven’t looked back since. Coaching is truly something I would do for free, but it also has been an unbelievable blessing for us financially! Now, a year and a half into this business and I have hit a HUGE milestone!! I just earned a total of $20,000 as a Beachbody coach. That extra $10,000 per year that we were dreaming about is now our reality.
I know it’s so taboo to speak of money but if it wasn’t for my coach being vulnerable and sharing her income I NEVER would have given Beachbody coaching a chance. I am brought to tears so many times when I’m able to get groceries without worrying about over drafting, when I pay our car payment – which was an unexpected expense when our old van died and we had no other choice. Our family would be sunk financially if not for Beachbody.
An income I have been able to earn from home! A business that lets me put my family first and that is only projected to grow! Here is a graphic showing the income growth from last year to this year…the crazy part is, that same explosive growth is what I am projected to have next year.
Building this business, being bold and taking our financial future into my OWN hands is the best decision I have ever made! If you are looking for a way to pay for Christmas gifts, a way to pay off debt, a way to just get AHEAD for once, THIS is the opportunity you are looking for. I’m telling you because I am nothing special but I have simply worked hard and loved others.
Our team has the best training in the company, we are a top ranked team for that very reason – you will not be alone. I am currently taking 10 women this month to train and mentor and help you achieve your financial goals as well. What would you do with an extra $10,000 per year? What kind of difference could that make for you? It’s possible, I’d love to show you how!